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Photos and video for the two of you: a beginner's guide
Recording yourselves just for you. Many couples find watching it back exciting.
In the quiz
- Photos or video for just the two of you
How to start
- Start with photos, then short videos.
- Watch it back together.
- Decide together whether to keep or delete.
How to keep it safe
- Store it somewhere encrypted that doesn’t auto-sync. Cloud photo backups can share automatically.
- Keep faces and identifying marks out unless you’re both sure.
- Delete it if either of you asks, no questions.
What you need
- Starter: a small phone tripod.
- Upgrade: encrypted storage.
Ideas to try
- Film something on a trip.
- Watch it back on the next date night.
Is your partner into it too?
Take the quiz on your own phones. You'll only see photos and video for the two of you in your results if you both said some kind of yes.
Sources
- Herbenick et al. (2017). Sexual diversity in the United States: Results from a nationally representative probability sample of adult women and men. PLOS ONE.
- Mori et al. (2020). The prevalence of sexting behaviors among emerging adults: A meta-analysis. Archives of Sexual Behavior.
Related guides
- Vibrators and toys
Toys add to sex instead of replacing anything. Plenty of couples use them together, and shopping for them together is half the fun.
- Remote-control toys
A wearable toy someone else controls, from the next room, across the dinner table, or from another state.
Educational, not medical or legal advice. Updated 2026-11-09.