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Remote-control toys: a beginner's guide

A wearable toy someone else controls, from the next room, across the dinner table, or from another state.

In the quiz

• Remote-control toy in public
• App-controlled toys from a distance

How to start

1. Try it at home first so you both know the settings.
2. Then out to dinner on a low setting.
3. Agree on when it can be turned on and when it can’t.

How to keep it safe

• Check the battery and connection before you leave the house.
• Keep it to settings that won’t make a scene.
• App-connected toys collect data. Check the app’s privacy settings.

What you need

• Starter: a remote-controlled wearable vibrator.
• Upgrade: an app-controlled toy for long distance.

Ideas to try

• Control it from the next room while they cook.
• Use it during a video call on a work trip.

Is your partner into it too?

Take the quiz on your own phones. You'll only see remote-control toys in your results if you both said some kind of yes.

Take the quiz

Sources

• Herbenick et al. & Reece et al. (2009). Vibrator use by women and men in the United States. Journal of Sexual Medicine.
• Muise et al. (2019). Broadening your horizons: Self-expanding activities promote desire and satisfaction in established romantic relationships. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology.

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Educational, not medical or legal advice. Updated 2026-11-09.